Life Coaching around Goal Setting Vs. Allowing

I am big on goals.  I like them, they work for me, I set them a lot of the time, and I love…. just love the feeling of achievement they provide me.  And in my coaching practice, often our conversations include goal setting.

But I’m also a big believer that there are times when it feels better to ‘go with the flow’ and not stress about the goals.  So how do we know which is the right time for goal setting vs. the time for going with the flow?

I recently came across a wonderful explanation that really resonates with me and with the coaching clients I’ve shared it with.  The quote is from Abraham, as offered by Jerry & Esther Hicks.  Some of you may already know of them.  If not, I encourage you to read some of their work.  Here’s the quote:

“Setting goals is like delegating to your Universal Manager.  And achieving the vibration of allowing is like standing back and trusting your Manager to set things into place, trusting that when another decision is needed from you, you will be aware of it. You are not delegating your life—you are creating your life.  You are becoming the visionary, in the creation mode, but there will still be plenty of things that you will want to do.  We in no way want to steer you away from action.  Action is fun.”

I read this as a wise message for those of us who often set goals and then push too hard to achieve them.  Setting goals can be good.  Knowing when to allow and trust is a whole other place.  And I for one think that getting comfortable with this place is moving in the right direction.

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2 Responses to Life Coaching around Goal Setting Vs. Allowing

  1. Jennifer says:

    This very subject was on my mind….as I drive from The Animal Kingdom to our resort. Great read. By the way….I would not be on this wonderful trip if you didn’t come into my life. Thank you. xox

  2. Antje says:

    Great topic, Wendy. I am just setting out on working with (and playing with) a personal five-year plan. As you know, I am also big on lists but I have learned that crossing something off that list shouldn’t be the singular measure of your day. The wonderful, enlightened riding teacher, Sally Swift, encourages us to keep a “soft eye” when we are on horseback; see that which is in front of you but also what is at the periphery or you will miss important information. Likewise in life, being too focused on a specific goal will likely cause you to miss something important going on at the periphery of your day, and your life.

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