I am big on goals. I like them, they work for me, I set them a lot of the time, and I love…. just love the feeling of achievement they provide me. And in my coaching practice, often our conversations include goal setting.
But I’m also a big believer that there are times when it feels better to ‘go with the flow’ and not stress about the goals. So how do we know which is the right time for goal setting vs. the time for going with the flow?
I recently came across a wonderful explanation that really resonates with me and with the coaching clients I’ve shared it with. The quote is from Abraham, as offered by Jerry & Esther Hicks. Some of you may already know of them. If not, I encourage you to read some of their work. Here’s the quote:
“Setting goals is like delegating to your Universal Manager. And achieving the vibration of allowing is like standing back and trusting your Manager to set things into place, trusting that when another decision is needed from you, you will be aware of it. You are not delegating your life—you are creating your life. You are becoming the visionary, in the creation mode, but there will still be plenty of things that you will want to do. We in no way want to steer you away from action. Action is fun.”
I read this as a wise message for those of us who often set goals and then push too hard to achieve them. Setting goals can be good. Knowing when to allow and trust is a whole other place. And I for one think that getting comfortable with this place is moving in the right direction.